Wanting or needing relationship and marriage counseling doesn’t mean your relationship is over. In fact, it usually means that you and your partner are ready and willing to do the difficult but rewarding work of changing your communication patterns to go from stuck and disconnected to closeness, open communication, and meeting each other’s most important needs.
With support from our Denver couples therapists, we can help you work through the obstacles facing your relationship.
It’s inevitable that we will change as we get older, and that means that our relationships will change too. Perimenopause is a big change that couples experience, but they’re not always prepared for it, which makes the experience more difficult and conflict more likely.
If you’re wondering how to support your relationship while you or your partner is experiencing perimenopause, here are some places to start, from our Denver Emotionally Focused Couple Therapists:
Most of us can relate to moments when we didn’t feel heard. What a frustrating and discouraging feeling that is—especially when it happens with your partner whom you love. Couples who come in for Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy at our Centennial office often say things like: “He doesn’t listen to me” or “She makes it all about herself.”
Sometimes, when we don’t feel heard, we can end up yelling at, criticizing, demanding, ignoring and withdrawing from the person we love. Unfortunately, all of those coping responses can escalate the situation and we don’t feel heard by our loved one.
Get info on two creative and novel ways to connect with your partner so you will feel heard in our blog post:
Co-parenting can definitely change the dynamic of your relationship, but that doesn’t mean that it has to be in a bad way. With some communication skills, trust, and validation, you can parent successfully as partners and as a team.
Our Denver family therapists wrote about some of our top tips on being good partners in parenting on the blog. Read it here:
Because adults with a disorganized attachment style have a negative view of themselves and others, it is very scary for them to let other people get close enough to them to form intimate bonds. This is why they end up forming a very incoherent, disorganized approach towards attaching to other people. They want to belong and be loved, but they are afraid to let anyone get close enough to hurt them. They are afraid of intimacy but equally scared of not ever having it.
Working with an Emotionally Focused Therapist like our couples counselors in Centennial can help you make sense of your attachment style so you feel confident in relationships moving forward.
Learning that your partner has been dishonest or has had an affair can be one of the most devastating events to happen in your relationship. Most couples really struggle to repair their relationship after an affair. We do not recommend you try to heal from a betrayal alone.
Getting help from a couples therapist experienced in affair counseling can make a huge difference. Our Centennial couples counselors are here to support you in doing this together.
Our Denver therapists want to help you be able to slow down and not get stuck having the same conversation you do at home that leads to unresolved conflict time and time again. That’s why we utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) in our couples counseling practice.
At the root of EFT is the understanding that every couple gets into a negative cycle or repeating pattern when they are distressed.
It’s like a bad play – you want to change your response, but can’t because your partner just read the same bad line.
Your partner then reacts to you in a way that furthers disconnection- and you both are left stuck in a cycle that leaves you feeling more alone in your relationship.
There is a way out of this cycle, and our couples therapists can help.
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